Archive for August, 2010

Trying to show you that life is not a mere random stringing together of situations and incidents, may they be trivial or profound, I have come up with some simple graphic and tangible terms that I am using in my work helping you see the apparent connection between your physical reality and the infinite and abundant world of energy. Our physical life – the life that we struggle with and try to make sense of on a daily basis – only represents a minute portion of a ginormous integral whole. Since this tiny world of our physical presence is the only part we can see many of us presume that all there can be is this visible realm. But this minuscule part is even less than what we often refer to as the “tip of the iceberg”. Literally everything else that is going on remains hidden to us as we simply have not yet learned how to pierce the veil of darkness and bring light and understanding to this boundless universe of interconnected energy and consciousness.

Some of us though, and this number grows by the day, have started to wonder whether what we are experiencing as life really is all there is and can be. More and more are now trying to figure out how to dive into the unknown and explore the vastness of our interconnected consciousness and utilize this abundance of energy helping them lead a fulfilling life.

But before we get lost in how to make sense of our stressful, painful, draining, lonely, prison like, sick and depressing life – albeit acknowledging that there are, sometimes even vast, spells of laughter, joy, happiness, sunshine, and love – let’s get back to the beginning and start with the basics which brings us to a paradigm altering invention of the 1960s: the bouncy ball.
Now you might shake your head and wonder what this popular polybutadiene rubber toy ball which rebounds proportionally to the amount of force used when thrown at a hard surface has anything to do with exploring and utilizing the intangible realm of cosmic energies?
Believe it or not, the notion of whether you and the life you lead is a mere bouncy ball – a rubber toy ball that bounces off of surfaces – or whether you have, at least, some sort of say in this game called life is the nucleus of the matter and hence the starting point of our discussion.

We have all been conditioned to believe that life, and for that matter the world we live in, is a set and rigid system and that we, ultimately, cannot do a lot to truly alter much of any of it. We were born as a girl or a boy, healthy or with a disability, into a specific family, social class and country without ever having been asked by anyone whether we indeed wanted any of this. Few end up living the life of a prince while most end up having to fight for survival on a daily basis. How can this be?

From early on we were made to believe by our parents and grandparents and other “sympathetic adults” that the universe we live in is a static construct with an immutable set of laws: we fall, we get hurt, no oxygen, we die, we misbehave, we get reprimanded, we don’t study, we fail, we don’t work hard, we won’t succeed, no pain no gain, only the strong survive, life is hard and unfair, sometimes we are up and sometimes we are down, accidents happen, there is only so much you can do, etc., etc., etc. Does this sound familiar? I bet it does!
The older we get the more people we meet who keep repeating the same doctrines we were told by our family and relatives: teachers, peers, mentors, media, and the church. And because every single one of them actually believes in these doctrines – mind you though they cannot be blamed for how they think at all as they have also only been conditioned by their parents and grandparents, peers, teachers, mentors, and media – they come across very authentically so that we keep absorbing these notions and belief systems unfiltered and unreflected until they become an integral part of us.

Then, one morning, we wake up drenched in sweat looking at our stressful, painful, unfulfilling, tiring, and fear driven life and wonder whether this is what life is supposed to be. How can it be that despite the fact that we have a job, make money, have a family, are healthy, and live in a safe country we feel so lost and trapped and desperate? What’s “wrong” with us? Why do we keep missing something? And what is that something? How come that life’s sky primarily seems overcast with many – too many? – rainy, sometimes even stormy days, but only few – too few? – sunny and warm ones? Ah! Then we remember all the “wise” words we heard growing up about how life is, namely a permanent up and down, hard and unfair, and, above all, that we cannot really do anything about it. So we drag our ass out of bed and go about our routine hoping that we will soon come out of our misery and stumble upon a sunny spell again.

Don’t get me wrong, I was reared the exact same way. I have had the exact same parents and grandparents and peers and mentors and teachers you had. Quite naturally I also ended up absorbing the exact same notions you were fed growing up. In the end we are stuck in the same paradigm, as we only continue to regurgitate what was shoved down our throat by the previous generation and the one before them.

And again you might wonder what any of this has anything to do with the miracles of life or these rubber balls that I keep referring to over and over again?

Well, it happened that one morning I woke up and realized that if indeed what my family, teachers, mentors, friends, the media, and all the other sympathetic people in my life kept saying about life was true, that life was so black and white and so rigidly set as described that at best we could only learn how to cope with and react to life’s curveballs, then I really could not be anything more than a mere cogwheel in a gigantic clockwork, destined to move when prompted, reacting to the impulse I receive from the cogwheels I am directly or indirectly connected to.

With horror I thought that if my conclusion of what everyone was saying was true then I would be set to lead a reactionary life, forever stuck in a treadmill called existence, completely dependent upon where, how far and how hard I am thrown by what we call fate.

Then I heard a clicking noise in my mind and started to smile.

And this is how I ended up comparing life with the rubber toy balls that first became world famous as Super Balls and are now commonly referred to as bouncy balls.

Are you a bouncy ball? Or do you think you can be the skipper of your life and tap into the mysterious unknown and utilize the cosmic energies to lead a fulfilled, happy life?

To be continued…

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While I was on vacation in Greece the other week I came about a book called “Life of Pi” written by Yann Martel. Boy o boy, what a story. Very creative. Very captivating. Very thought-provoking.

For those of you who have not read the story, here is a super short write up: in this fantasy a vegetarian, 16 year old Indian boy called Piscine “Pi” Molitor Patel survives some eight months after a shipwreck, while stranded on a small lifeboat with a tiger named Richard Parker, a hyena, a zebra and an orangutan. The hyena eats the zebra and orangutan, and then Richard Parker eats the hyena, leaving Pi as the only other survivor. Food and water supplies are low. Pi starts fishing to get food for him and Richard Parker, whom he keeps alive so that he will not be all alone on the ocean. Pi ensures, with his knowledge as the son of a zoo-keeper, that Richard Parker believes Pi is the alpha animal and therefore doesn’t attack the boy. After 227 days the lifeboat reaches the coast of Mexico.

This book has sold almost 10 million copies worldwide, and rightly so I may say. There are several aspects of life that the book touches upon in great detail: religion, spirituality, interaction of man with the animal kingdom, survival, etc. Today I would only want to focus on one aspect: transformation. Those of you who have either worked with me one on one or have attended a seminar know that I am a total believer in taking the necessary time for things to unfold and grow – I always say that “slow is fast and fast is slow”. Through gradual but persistent work we can change anything and everything: behavior, thought processes, belief systems, weight, fortune, etc.
Change can come through two doors: 1) outside circumstances, such as dramatic changes in ones world: revolution, sickness, accident, weather catastrophes, etc.: through this door one is forced to change and adapt to the new situation rather swiftly or “drown” and 2) from within, where we want to change out of our own free will: we are tired of playing around and want to get married and settle down, being overweight bothers us so much that we change our diet, we are unfulfilled in our job and so we take a leap of faith and switch jobs, industries or even start running our own small gig…
The only difference between the first and the second “door” is that one is apparently pushed upon us and the other is self directed change. Both can be equally powerful as long as the wish for change/survival is big enough…
In Pi’s case change was pushed down his throat and became a matter of life or death. He grew up as a total vegetarian, his parents were vegetarian, everyone he knew were vegetarian, as a matter of fact, the entire region he lived in was primarily vegetarian. He never had eaten meat or fish in his life before, and the sheer thought of having to do so made him feel nauseated. In his life he would have died happily being a vegetarian never knowing the taste of a juicy burger or a finely grilled fish.
Well, fate meant it differently with him when he woke up in a lifeboat in the middle of the Pacific ocean. He survived not eating at all for the first couple of days but then he started to eat the bland survival cookies he found on the boat. After a couple of weeks those were all eaten and hunger started to take over his body and mind. He was thus forced to either do the unthinkable and eat fish or simply die.
During his time on the boat the reader gets to observe the gradual but nonetheless drastic change in Pi, who entered the boat a total vegetarian but left it 227 days later as a carnivore of the first order. After catching his first fish he has the biggest of difficulties to kill it. It takes him a while to overcome his own fears and inhibitions before he finally wins the battle against himself and the fish. From total vegetarian to a raw fish eater within five minutes, incredible how life sometimes unfolds itself to us. In the weeks and months to come he then gradually threw overboard all of his inhibitions so that he ate sea turtles and drank their blood and even killed a bird with his bare hands and ate its raw flesh without thinking twice.
The question now arises as to why he was able to turn 180 degree from a total vegetarian to a raw fish and meat eater? The motivation to do so was big enough, that simple. Either he changed or he would have died. A very simple equation.
This brings us now to the second “door” and the voluntary change that lies behind it and this is really what we are interested in.
Figure out what it is that you would want: different job, less work hours, more money, family, more travel, new home in a specific neighborhood, etc. Be as precise as possible, mere wishful thinking and blah blah won’t just do it. How much do you want to earn? Give the exact dollar amount you would like to earn in a year. You want a new home? In which neighborhood? How big/how many bedrooms, bathrooms? How much should it cost max? I guess you get the picture here.
Focus on the end result. Put yourself in the new house and see yourself submitting your tax return with that specific dollar amount.
Believe that you will receive from the bottom of your heart. If your believe is as big as Pi’s and if your motivation is as big as Pi’s you will get there with 99% certainty! Pi wanted to live. This simple but very powerful motivator helped him overcome his aversion against meat and gave him the courage to tame and subdue a wild tiger on a tiny lifeboat.

Do you have the motivator it takes to proactively go for the things that you would want?

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