Archive for September, 2011

Viktor Frankl, an Austrian psychiatrist who survived Auschwitz, wrote a book that is commonly known as "Man's Search for Meaning". In his book he concludes that the meaning of life is found in every moment of living; life never ceases to have meaning, even in suffering and death. Frankl observed that those inmates who had something meaningful to do upon their release from the concentration camp, such as a teacher returning to his students or a physician taking care of his patients, or someone waiting for their return back home, such as children or a spouse, had a much higher chance of survival than those without any meaningful life back home. Knowing that someone was depending on their return gave inmates the strength to deal with even the worst atrocities imaginable. Frankl himself, in part, survived Auschwitz because he had a loving wife and family who were waiting for him as well as a profession that he loved. He imagined sharing his experiences in the concentration camp with his students at the university in Vienna where he taught and lived.

I quite frequently meet people who, despite facing most challenging times, continue to focus on experiences that give them joy and happiness, such as travel or spending time with their grandchildren.

When my world collapsed around me a couple of years ago: within just a few months I lost my father, my multimillion dollar business collapsed, my girlfriend told me that there won't be a future for us and finally I was told by my doctors that my cancer treatment over twenty years ago, had caused some damage to my heart which I eventually would have to tackle head-on by undergoing surgery, I started to think that this downward spiral would never end and that I would eventually end up on the streets. Despite all the stresses that I was exposed to, somehow I focused on the moments in the future where I could share my experiences with my future family as well as the rest of the world. I envisioned how I would be able to help other people overcome their challenges better and faster through my work: blog, videos, seminars, books and lectures. The focusing on my future, better, life, helped me to step outside of my current situation and gain some distance. With the distance came clarity and focus. The more I was able to separate myself from the collapsing world around me, the more I was able to relax and focus on the life that I wanted for myself in the future. Gradually, with each passing month and with each small success in my life,  my self esteem got stronger and stronger so that I eventually dared to dream big again. Big as in retiring by 45 where I only work because I would want to work and that my work would revolve around travel and people and that it would pay me handsomely. Well, today, just a relatively shot period of time after my financial collapse I may say that I am well into my way of achieving exactly that.

There is no secret to my successes and achievements – if I can do so, I am convinced that you can do so, too. Find something in your life that "turns you on", that makes you happy and that makes you feel wanted and fulfilled. For me this is traveling the world and interacting with people – what would it be for you?

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As already indicated in last week's blog entry, I am 110% convinced that no matter how dire or helpless the situation or seemingly grand and 'impossible' a wish, through the power of our mind and the miraculous force of creation and visualization teamed up with an unshakable belief that our vision will become reality, we are able to create the most amazing life for ourselves and others.

Just a few years ago I lost a lot – my dad, my girlfriend and financially I lost literally everything. My situation looked dire and I admittedly started to doubt in my own magical powers. But I continued to do my routine exercises and brushed off every attack of doubt that crept up in my mind and continued to focus on what it is that I truly wanted – complete financial independence so that I only had to work because I wanted to work, a flexible work schedule so that I could have a lot of quality 'me' time to do sports or yoga or travel or simply do absolutely nothing at all.

Well, within a couple of years my life has totally changed – I am now looking at an annual income that will provide me with my financial independence within the next few years – my income is growing at an exponential rate without me really feeling that I am working as what I do really gives me pleasure. I am leading an almost completely flexible life style so that I can indulge in 'me' time and do nothing at all or travel to a foreign destination just as I had envisioned it a few years back.

Having gone through a complete financial collapse has allowed me to experience first hand that really the only difference between utter success and complete failure is how I think about and perceive life – our thoughts and belief systems pre-generate our experiences. In my search on how to overcome how I felt about money, I came across the following exercise which I consciously practiced for a very long time. At that time I had to count practically every penny that I owned and so $20 or $50 were a lot of money to me. As I hated how it felt not being able to afford anything anymore I focused my energies on how to make myself feel that I indeed could afford most, if not all, things that I desired. I started to put a $20 bill in my wallet and walked through the streets with open eyes and an open mind, making sure to tell myself that whatever item that I came across that cost up to $20 I could indeed afford. So by the end of the day I had literally hundreds of things on my list that I theoretically could have bought I chosen to do so. After a while I put a $50 bill in my wallet and started to do the same exercise only increasing the price tag to fifty dollars. I was really amazed how much more I could have bought had could afford. And finally I put a $100 bill in my wallet and roamed the streets and the web in search of things that I could afford.

What a powerful exercise that was. I did this for several weeks and even though I could not see an immediate result I knew that eventually my mind would create me the reality that I wanted. Lo and behold, a year after I did the exercise I started to make good money again and now I sometimes earn several thousands of dollars per day!!! How crazy (cool!) is that?! I am not wearing a suit, I do not have to show up in an office at 7:00 in the morning and I do not hate my job – quite the contrary I love what I am doing: coaching people in lifestyle and mental attitude, guiding people through Europe, as well as help running a business, leading it to it's IPO in a few years from now. It is simply jaw dropping how things have turned out for me in such a short period of time – sometimes I cannot believe my own 'luck'. (Even though I know that I created this 'luck' myself through the power of my mind).

Today my tip to you is pretty simple: put a bill in your wallet and start focusing on what it is that you can afford as opposed to what you cannot afford and before you know it things will also start changing for you. Good 'luck' ;)

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