Archive for April, 2012

Last night I had dinner with my friend Peter. Since we had not seen one another in a few months, we quite naturally talked about what was going on in our life. What he shared with me was so fascinating that I simply have to share this with you.

He has been unhappy in his current job for a while, possibly for some two years already. Even though he is very good in his job and highly successful, he realized that there was no upward movement for him possible anymore. He could increase his salary but not his position, at least not in a dramatic way. So a year ago he decided to go back to school and get a degree in business administration, but this is only a side story. He started to think about what it is that he would like to work as, the position, the money, his work environment, etc.

As he was busy with working a more than full time job as well as going to school at nights, he hadn't had the time yet to think about applying for new jobs. Nonetheless he landed his absolute dream job. Now you might ask yourself how this could be possible? Well, he received a phone call from his former boss. a part-owner and member of the board of a large competitor of the company that he currently is working for. At a first glance this does not sound too impressive. Unless of course you knew that Pete had left his former employer almost 10 years ago. And when he worked there he was a rookie in the industry and he only had worked at the company for a little more than a year when he left for the company he currently works for. Peter can claim that he left a big mark in his year with the company as he created a brand new and highly profitable income stream for his former boss before leaving. The reason why he left was for a pretty mundane, he did not get along with his new direct superior. So he left. He had no contact with the part-owner of the company until two years ago, when he contacted him to have a casual chat and of course to also find out whether there was a job for him in the company. Even though the conversation did not lead to a new job, he at least had a great chat reconnecting with his former boss. Two more years go by without any further communication between these two men until Pete receives a call out of the blue with an offer that swept him off his feet: an offer to become a partner in the company. Not right away of course, but gradually he can acquire equity in the company with the option to become an equal partner in the business. Furthermore, after one year of 'apprenticeship' he would become the general manager in the company – a multi-national publishing house – as well as, ultimately, editor-in-chief. Even though Pete feels stressed out and has no clue how he possible can tackle this new challenge in his life, he feels ready to jump into the cold water. One of the amazing parts of this story is that this job basically is the manifestation of his boldest dreams and wished. He literally had been visualizing the coolest job he could possibly think of: part ownership in a large company, complete independent work environment, managing of a large group of people, editor-in-chief. He of course never thought that his former boss would call him with exactly this job/partnership offer but since the current general manager and his entire immediate team were fired on the spot for embezzling money the owners were in a rather precarious situation. After weighing all options they came to a conclusion that a new broom would be the option for the mid to long term future of the company. Even though it meant that short term the company might have to deal with problems due to a 'not so experienced' management team they decided to take their changes with Peter.

May this story encourage you to dream big and believe in yourself. Know that when the time is ready the opportunity will present itself without much effort. Good luck!!

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Las weekend I visited my friend R in Norway as I was invited to attend his wedding. Needless to say that it was a magnificent event. It was the warmest March since recordings started – last year the still had a foot of snow on the ground – the sun was shining, it was a brilliant cloudless Saturday afternoon and we were overlooking the town from a gazebo set atop a hill.

It is not so much the wedding and the festivities that I would like to talk about but rather what I had the pleasure to observer 'behind the scenes' – the everyday life of two families merging and becoming one. R's lovely wife H has three daughters, a 7, a 10 and a 16 year old. And R has the coolest 8 year old son you can possibly imagine – but that is another story altogether. R and H only met less than 2 years ago but all of H's daughters embrace R if not as their new dad, but for sure as the new man in their mom's life and their new confidant and person they could lean on and trust. This was a heartwarming observation. How come R was able to win all of the girls (even the teenage one's!!) hearts and trust?! I shared with R my observation and admiration and asked him whether he knew why he was able to create such a great relationship with the girls in such a short period of time?

His answer was short and sweet: say what you gonna do and do as you say; in short keep your word and be reliable. When he says they are going skating on the weekend, they are going skating on the weekend, period. And if, on rare occassions, he cannot keep his promise, he explains them why and comes up with alternative plans.

R's response reminded me of something I once learned from a sage: treat relationships like bank accounts. Whenever you do something good then you can consider it as an emotional deposit. When you are reliable and create an environment where people can trust you, you are building up a big savings account. The bigger the savings the easier it is to be forgiven in case you cannot deliver on a promise – which eventually will happen, no matter what.

What goes around, comes around. The energies you exude create your perceived reality. Mind you, in R's case, the girls did not have an easy childhood, so it was not a walk in the park for him at all to achieve the loving family life he was enjoying on a daily basis. But his consistency and determination to create the family life he always wanted gradually produced an environment where the kids started to feel comfortable so that they felt safe enough to let down their guard and embrace R full heartedly.

The life you have is 100% a creation of you, your thoughts, belief systems, paradigms, and actions. As you can see, you can also Ride Your Horse in a family setting and proactively and consciously create the life that you want – we are no Bouncy Balls, we are no Victims! We are on Planet Earth to create the life that we want in all and every aspects – may this story inspire you to do so.

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