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On my last trip I came across another “Kate and William” fairy tale that I simply had to share with you.

I had the honor of traveling with Bob and Marj through Switzerland. Bob is 94 years old and Marj is 82. They have been married for four years, yes, you read correctly, just for four years. Bob is from California and Marj is from New Jersey. They met on a trip through Australia and New Zealand four and a half years ago.

They clicked immediately at the beginning of the tour and spent the rest of the trip glued to one another. After the trip, Marj flew to Bob and spent a couple of weeks with him. And then Bob came to New Jersey to visit Marj. When Marj flew to the West Coast to visit Bob again, they started to talk about the constant back and forth, so Bob suggested to simply drive to Las Vegas and get married. Marj thought it was a joke but went along. Only once standing before a justice of the peace she realized that Bob really meant it and so they got married; in Las Vegas, four months after meeting for the first time on a trip through New Zealand and Australia.

If this were not remarkable enough, I want to point out that Bob was 89 and Marj was 77 when they met halfway across the globe. To travel such long distances at such an age would sound incredulous if not crazy and impossible for most people (at that age). To get married at their age and only after knowing one another for four months might also be considered a ‘little outside the box’.

And I haven’t even started to share Bob’s and Marj’s life story, which both were very open to share with me. Bob was married for sixty-two years and Marj for forty-five in their first marriage. Bob’s wife got very sick during her final years, so Bob stayed home for two years to tend to her. He barely left his house during these two years and even had their food delivered to his house. He was there for his wife until she died. He was eighty-five when his wife died and it took him a couple of years to overcome this shock, but then he started to go amongst people again and eventually started to travel as well.

Marj’s husband was taken from her in an accident; she was seventy-five when her husband died. While Bob has a very outgoing personality, Marj is a little more reserved, but not much, I should say – quiet waters run deep as they say. Bob was an engineer who ended up starting a few companies in his lifetime which made him financially independent. Marj was a teacher her entire life. She reluctantly retired at sixty-five only because she voluntarily wanted to give a younger teacher a chance to teach.

Since Bob and Marj got married they have traveled internationally at least four times per year. They have seen seventy-two countries since they got married. And my trip with them was their second this year, but also their second to last major trip. They have one more trip planned later on in the year and then they will call it quits. They say it has become too cumbersome to travel long-distance. You should have seen them on our train trip through the Swiss Alps: always on time, they partook in all excursions, even took the gondola all the way up the Matterhorn, always smiling, always holding hands – it was so delightful and heartwarming to travel with them as well as very inspiring.

To celebrate their journey together we presented them with a gift and asked them to share their story with us. Bob immediately got up and delivered an ad-hoc fifteen minute long speech about how they met and what they have done together since they got married. And at the end he said: believe in the magic of life, there is always hope, there is always an opportunity around the corner, there is always a surprise waiting for you, as long as you believe in magic, it will happen, no matter who you are, where you are and how old you are.

I am sharing this real life story with you to inspire you to believe in the magic of life and the power that your own mind has in creating a wonderful and fulfilled life for you – create it, will it, believe it, and you will experience it…

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Over one billion (!) people watched William and Kate’s wedding on Friday, April 29th. A fairy tale became reality – an “average” girl turned into a princess. Something we all deep, deep down daydream about – that someone picks us up and pulls us out of our average, mundane, and maybe even miserable life and through a magic kiss turns us into a beautiful princess or charming prince. When do we ever see a Cinderella story to come true? Never, right?! Wrong!

There are Cinderella stories happening all day every day – we just have to see it. Such a story is unfolding right in front of my eyes, so instead of writing about William and Kate, I much rather would like to write about Laverne and Ellen. I am currently guiding them on their tour through the Alps. Laverne is taking his Ellen on a tour through Europe – it is their honeymoon. So might be inclined to say that this is not such a unique love story; well, only because you do not know that Laverne is 76 years and Ellen is 72 years old. They just got married a few months ago and Laverne wanted to show Ellen “his” Europe. Last time he was here was as a soldier in the 1950’s where he got to travel through and learn to appreciate Europe. He never had a chance to come back again – until now. Both were married once before; Laverne for over 50 years and Ellen for nearly 50 years. Both took care of their sick partners for decades and both lost their partners a few years ago. Both live in rural Wisconsin and happened to bump into one another through a divine providence.

Throughout their trip they have not left each other’s side once and whenever I look at them they are holding hands. Laverne keeps saying that he is the luckiest man on earth to have found Ellen and to be able to spend time with her. He couldn’t even remember how it feels not to take care for somebody. His wife was suffering from MS and was sick and needed help for thirty of their fifty years together with her final ten years being bedridden and needing constant attention. Laverne said that it never crossed his mind to ever leave his wife he was just there for her, despite having to work on his farm long, long hours and also running a tractor repair business on the side – apart from raising his children. He did not have a single to himself for some thirty years and wasn’t able to travel since his return back to the US from Europe in the 1950’s. His heart was yearning to travel and to explore but life’s circumstances forced him to stay put.

Not only was he taking care of his wife but also he had to overcome a few major health issues – cancerous tumor and a heart attack, apart from a big accident. All of these sent him straight to hospital – weeks, months and years of personal fights but he never forgot to laugh and to say ‘the hell with it’. When you talk to these two little angles you do not see a trace of bitterness or anger in their eyes – all you see is happiness, excitement and love for each other. To have met them on my journey has been a blessing indeed! Thank you Laverne and thank you Ellen.

As you can see a ‘William and Kate’ miracle is happening all the time – just choose to see and choose to experience yourself and you will!

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There are no “good” or “bad” energies. Energies are energies, period; we are the ones who categorize them into “positive” and “negative”. In the energetic realm there is only an “is” or an “is not” without any distinctions whatsoever when it comes to race, gender, education or wealth. By simply existing, everyone is given an equal access to them. They not only come for free and in unlimited supply, they also work for everyone in the same way, with only one caveat to this: you have to trust and believe, as without faith nothing can be achieved.

On one hand it felt liberating and joyful and invigorating to discover this fundamental law as it meant that we could create and achieve almost anything we wanted; and since we are all equal we all have equal chances to utilize them. On the other hand though it also felt scary and intimidating when I realized that we could just as much abuse this law and cause harm and destruction instead of creating the loving, joyful, and happy life we seek.

Let me explain: some of us, too few until now, have realized the co-existence of the physical and the energetic worlds. Those few though have been able to move mountains and change the world within their lifetime. Whether they had an experience similar to mine or not makes no difference, somehow they must have felt the interconnectedness of our universe and utilized its unlimited potential and power. Here are some examples: Mohandas Gandhi, who created the modern State of India and liberated it from British rule through passive and peaceful resistance; Nelson Mandela led South Africa out of its apartheid constitution and became the first black president of his country; the Buddha dedicated his entire life to healing people once he realized that everything is evanescent; and the Dalai Lama has been traveling the world as an ambassador for pacifism working on peaceful means to liberate Nepal from its Chinese rule.

Most regrettably though, as already indicated before, one must not necessarily have the best of intentions to learn how to tap into this realm and utilize it for their benefit. Aiming to utilize the energies so that they benefit mankind is a conscious and noble choice that each one of us must make in order to be able to step into the footsteps of the aforementioned highly admirable humans. There are ample examples in our history though where the cosmic energies were abused by individuals, groups, and systems, from Adolf Hitler to Josef Stalin, to devastate, abuse, and extort.

Since my life is about love, healing, and taking charge of our life, showing us that we are not a Bouncy Ball but indeed can learn how to Ride Our Horse, I do not want to focus any more on these negative examples; although I felt obliged to give a full and complete picture of the energetic universe to do justice to its neutral nature and to show that it is up to us, and no one else, to cause good in this world.

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Napoleon Hill was born into poverty in 1883 in a one-room cabin on the Pound River in Wise County, Virginia. At the age of 10 his mother died, and two years later his father remarried. He became a very rebellious boy but grew up to be an incredible man. He began his writing career at age 13 as a “mountain reporter” for small town newspapers and went on to become America’s most beloved motivational author. He dedicated more than 25 years of his life to define the reasons by which so many people fail to achieve true financial success and happiness in their life.

During this time he achieved great successes as an attorney and journalist. His early career as a reporter helped finance his way through law school. He was given an assignment to write a series of success stories on famous men, and his big break came when he was asked to interview steel-magnate Andrew Carnegie. Mr. Carnegie commissioned Hill to interview over 500 millionaires to find a success formula that could be used by the average person. These included Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham Bell, Henry Ford, Elmer Gates, Charles M. Schwab, Theodore Roosevelt, William Wrigley Jr, John Wanamaker, William Jennings Bryan, George Eastman, Woodrow Wilson, William H. Taft, John D. Rockefeller, F. W. Woolworth, and Jennings Randolph, among others.

He became an adviser to Andrew Carnegie and with Carnegie’s help he formulated a philosophy of success, drawing on the thoughts and experiences of a multitude of rags-to-riches tycoons. It took Hill over 20 years to produce his book, a classic in the personal development field called Think and Grow Rich. This book has sold over 7 million copies and has helped thousands of people to achieve success. It has also been considered to be the most influential book in the lives of W. Clement Stone and Og Mandino.

The secret to success is very simple but you’ll have to read the book to find out what it is!

Napoleon Hill passed away in November 1970 after a long and successful career writing, teaching, and lecturing about the principles of success. His work stands as a monument to individual achievement and is the cornerstone of modern motivation. His book, Think and Grow Rich, is the all time best-seller in the field.

In recent years The Napoleon Hill Foundation has published his bestselling writings worldwide, giving him immense influence around the globe.

(This information has been taken from Napoleon Hill’s FaceBook Fan Page)

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On my constant quest to learn more about myself and my healing powers, and to find answers to why the heck we are here and have a conscious mind, life, death, and everything in between, I have traveled thousands upon thousands of miles – more figuratively than literally, but still ;)

One of the vehicles for trying and hoping to understand our universe better is undergoing regressions. What an incredible journey that is! I have done a few and boy o boy were they emotional ones. Every time I came back out of my trance crying and sobbing. During each regression I experienced some 3 to 5 lives and deaths.

The farthest back in time I have traveled thus far was to 5,032 BC where I relived my final minutes on earth. I was a very old man for that time, 42. I remember wearing very basic clothing, basically fur wrapped around my torso and my feet but my legs and arms felt bare. I was walking through snow and I was freezing and shivering. Even in my trance like state I could feel the dampness creeping into my body. I remember stumbling and falling onto the ground due to exhaustion. I was simply too weak to get up anymore. Eventually my body and my soul gave in and I died – I had frozen to death.

It was such a powerful experience. Even right now while writing about it, I can feel all the emotions I felt during my regression: fear, giving in, letting go, the equilibrium I felt inside even though my outside was gradually freezing to death. It still send shivers through my spine.

A book that I read many years ago: “Many Lives, Many Masters” by Brian Weiss, MD, got me into trying regressions myself. I did them – and continue to do them – with the help of a psychotherapist who is trained to guide people into a light hypnosis. In his book Dr. Weiss tells a story of one of his patients who he was able to tremendously help by doing regressions with her. All in all she experienced well over 100 past lives during her therapy with him. Originally she was considered a “lost cause” and “incurable” of her psychological problems. Over time she not only got cured but actually turned into a gifted healer herself who now leads a fulfilled life helping other people overcome their problems.

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The biggest revelation I had when my journey as a healer started was that we oscillate at a specific frequency. Energies whizz through our entire body in a precise way from the top of our head to the tip of our toes. This constant flow is highly organized and structured; you can picture it like the German autobahn system, where freeways connect organs, bones, tissues, and everything else in between and transport information about the status of each atom and particle in our body to the rest of the system. When we are healthy and every molecule of our body operates smoothly our aura radiates like a sinusoid. It is in perfect harmony with the rest of the universe.

Whenever a system is well lubricated and at one it oscillates like a sine wave: a meadow at sunrise, singing birds in the spring, a promotion at work, falling in love, a new born baby, the flow of traffic post rush-hour. All these are examples of a perfectly pulsating entity. Tapping into such a harmoniously vibrating environment usually impacts other areas of our life very positively. If the sinusoid is strong enough it can even equalize and correct disharmonious aspects of our life.

A sinusoid is one of mathematics core functions describing a smooth, repetitive oscillation. Sine wave patterns are the most commonly found wave patterns in nature. The two most common waves in nature, light and sound waves, are sinus waves. But also ocean waves as well as wave patterns you see in deserts or the way a hissed flag dances with the wind are sinusoids that we come across in our daily lives.

Depending on whether we just look at the wavelength of an organ, a body part, or at our entire system the sinus wave is either more compact and flows like a creek in the Alps or wide and symmetrical resembling the Mississippi on its southward journey to New Orleans.

But if the flow of energy in our body is distorted then the waves start running amok.

If this distortion remains for too long then it will manifest itself in our body as a physical discomfort, be it a migraine, an ulcer, a heart attack, or a broken bone.
The same can be said for life situations, such as stress in our job or in our relationship. If we cannot harmonize these frequencies then we will see a manifestation of their distortion in our daily life. They could be physical as described above or situational, where we lose a job or separate from our partner.

Where in your life do you see your energies flowing harmoniously and where in your life do you feel stuck? Maybe, when looking at the depicted waves above you can identify the areas where your energies are distorted?

More will come on helping you identify and streamline your energy-flow in future blog entries.

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Some 80% of folks/couples that I work with have sexuality issues. Hands down. Either they have a hard time embracing their own sexuality or are too timid to explore their desires with their partner. Either way, they feel unhappy, tense, unheard and unappreciated. The stress sometimes is so high that it manifests itself as a physical dis-ease: migraines, back problems, nervous twitches, fibrosis; the list can be continued forever.

Even though it requires courage, sometimes even a lot of it, the fastest way to overcome sexual stuckness is to attack it head-on. A couples retreat where you focus on each other’s physicality and sexuality has the potential to heal even the most desperate relationship. A few months ago I introduced OneTaste to you.

Today I would like to introduce another wonderful site to you: SexySpirits. The website is run by Steven Otero, someone who has an encyclopedic knowledge of all things sexual. Sign up for their free newsletter. It is filled with workshops, retreats, information about how to improve your relationship, sexuality, and much more. You can learn how to give (and then also receive) Tantric Massages or learn Erotic Touch through video online courses.

I am a huge believer that we are on this planet to live the most fulfilled, most expressed, and most proactively created life we possible can live. Take the first step in the direction of healing and fulfillment and the rest will unfold. Have faith.

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The more open one can talk about ones desires and the more sexuality is perceived as a natural part of life, the more we can lead a complete and fulfilled life. I think that sexuality is a God given gift. Possibly the biggest gift we have been given to enjoy our physicality. Even though we are cosmic energy radiating at a specific frequency we are on earth to create and experience our humanness. From overcoming health problems to starting a family, falling in love, losing a job, to making friends.

Even though our sexuality is our biggest gift, we seem to be struggling with it more often than not. So part of my healing work is to pierce the veil of shame and guilt and uneasiness with our sexuality, from emotions we feel, desires we have, to physical inadequacies we believe to have.

A woman who has done a wonderful job in helping people, especially women, in embracing their sexuality and leading a sexually fulfilled life is Betty Dodson. Her website and blog are a wonderful encyclopedia providing tools and help in a variety of ways to become one with our sexuality. You can learn more about her at http://dodsonandross.com/about-us.

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That sex and spirituality are interconnected was already figured out by Buddha. Living out our sexuality helps lead a healthier, happier and more fulfilled life. By connecting with the energies of our sex partner we can increase our vibration and connect with the universal energies even easier. Our breath is the means of doing so. For those of you who have a hard time meditating on their own, why not connect meditation with an out of this world sexual experience?

Read Lawrence Lanoff’s blog entry here: http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/lawrence-lanoff/2010/08/amazing-dance-sex-spirituality-science-my-bliss.

Whether you are freshly in love or whether you have been in your relationship for many years the exercise of breathing with your partner will help you deepen your relationship and bring your sexual joy at the same time.

Plan an evening for two this coming weekend. Light candles, play soft music, eat only a very light dinner, and allow your sensuality to blossom and take you over.

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I am a big fan of the documentary “What the Bleep do we know” so I thought I would share with you a part of the movie and start a discussion with you: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XB6-OY-c9rk.
One of the parts of the movie that peaked my interest was the fact that it tries to convey to us, in layman’s terms, how powerful our mind is. It so powerful – way beyond what we can process – that it constantly creates our experiences, even split seconds before we actually experience them. And this is where the Random Number Generators or RNGs come in.
It took me several years to realize that we, our mind, not only is the starting point for getting sick or healed again, but also for everything that we experience every single day of our life. As a naturally gifted healer I had no problems in seeing the interconnectedness of body, mind, spirit, and cosmic energies as I perceive all dis-ease as an aberrated flow of energy. All we have to do to regain our balance and health is to make sure that the energies flow smoothly again. This is actually much simpler done that you might think. Your breath is the key to healing. If you do not know anything else, simply close your eyes, put your hands on your belly button and breathe air in and out of your tummy for some 10 minutes. While your belly goes up and down, visualize a river and its flow of gentle water running down your body, from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. Over and over again. Soon you will feel calm and relaxed. This relaxation will take over your entire body and start to penetrate your painful part of the body. Continue to breathe. Repeat this for several days and you will realize that through your own breath you have brought healing to your body and mind.
Our mind is so much stronger than to just being limited to the boundaries of your body. It goes way beyond that. It penetrates other people and helps co-create other people’s experiences as much as it does for our own life.
Over time I gradually learned how to utilize our body’s self-healing powers and apply to life experiences. We can alter, improve, redo, or start anew anything – as long as we know what a powerful tool we carry between our shoulders.
I challenge you to utilize your powerful mind to create something tangible within a week. Draw a mental picture, as vividly as you can, and dedicate 10 minutes of your day, ideally before falling asleep, in focusing on it while taking your deep, relaxed belly breaths. A short vacation destination, finding the car that you can afford or the cocktail dress for your friend’s wedding in a couple of months. I am confident that you will be able to bring about whatever it is that you would want to see manifested in your life – as long as can streamline your energies and tap into the cosmic realm of possibilities.

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